Midlife is a time to reassess our lives. I have found that especially for midlife women, there is a deep longing to find true balance. But, sometimes we don't understand what true balance entails. We think it is a juggling act that we might never get right. But, it's about something else...

The Eagle

Did you know that an eagle knows when a storm is approaching long before it breaks? The eagle will fly to some high spot and wait for the winds to come. When the storm hits, it sets its wings so that the wind will pick it up and lift it above the storm. While the storm rages below, the eagle is soaring above it. The eagle doesn't escape the storm. It simply uses the storm to lift it higher. It rises on the winds that bring the storm.

I am also reminded that a jet plane spends 95% of the time in flight being off course, but gets to its destination by a continual process of slight corrections. I think that's an apt metaphor for balance in our lives. It's not staying the course without error, but continual correction to come back to center.

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The Benedictine Rule

I recently came back from a retreat with a group of ministers spent at a Benedictine Abbey in Kansas City. We used the four elements of the Rule of St. Benedict as our focus for each of the first four days. Wouldn't you know -- the first day was about BALANCE! (there are no accidents in life!) The exhortation was that we needed a blending in life of work and recreation, inner and outer work, speaking and silence and attention both to the physical and spiritual aspects to our lives. The harmonizing of these seeming opposites makes life work. Where in your life are you with these aspects?

Many parts of our life need to be brought into balance, and they may seem to conflict with each other: responsibilities to our family, earning a living, maintaining our health, giving attention to our spiritual lives, keeping up with the deluge of information required to function in the world today, our duties to community or church activities, and the myriad of other demands on our time and energy.

Where are you?

Everywhere we look we can see examples of people who are out of balance. Where are you in this scheme of things? There are people with heart attacks from years of poor eating habits and lack of exercise. There are people who are too much in their heads, who haven't integrated head and heart. There are spiritual giants who die agonizing deaths from wasting illness from years of denying or neglecting the body. There are people so caught up in caring for their bodies, minds, and social lives that they never think about their spiritual nature. And there are people so caught up in their feelings that they neglect their minds, or fail to use their reasoning ability; they, too, have failed to integrate head and heart.

To balance all these aspects of our life we need something to balance them on, some point of equilibrium. The more complex our lives become, the more we need to realize that there is only one reliable point of balance-and that is God. Only God pervades everything, underlies all the material and spiritual activities of life. As a woman in midlife, we have to learn to make God our balance point. There is no other answer. When I look at life with clear understanding, it all boils down to this: Balance means finding God; and finding God is all about spiritual practice